Rebecca continues to be open to trying new things and is having great fun hanging out with her Big Sister. Now in 11th grade, Rebecca really enjoys school and has strong verbal, math, and reading abilities (she tests at a twelfth grade level!). Rebecca’s grades are A’s, B’s, and C’s when she turns her homework in on time.
The folks in her current placement have lots of great things to say about Rebecca. They tell us that she’s a really “good girl,” who is fun and a bit eccentric with a passion for shoes and dressing up in frilly outfits. She even likes to make dresses. When things are going well, they especially enjoy the sweet and compliant aspects of her personality. They make sure that they are giving her the encouragement she needs to continue to stretch herself by learning new skills and trying new things.
Rebecca has been benefiting from her participation in life-skills classes and other group sessions that are helping to prepare her to be semi-independent as an adult. She has been making better choices for herself and has made important personal gains. With her love of outdoor activities and an improved diet she is now at a healthier weight. She is very proud of this! Although Rebecca struggles with relationships, she is doing better at making friends.
Legally free, Rebecca came into foster care in the fall of 2008. Her exposure to substance abuse prenatally has impacted Rebecca socially, emotionally, and behaviorally. Those issues and the significant early trauma she experienced have left her struggling with mood swings, oppositional behavior, and inadequate social abilities which impact her ability to maintain boundaries and heed personal safety skills.
It will be important that her adoptive family to really be there for her and help her feel loved. She might do better with a family with no children or significantly older.
Rebecca’s social worker wants to hear from those older single moms and couples who have the experience and skills to make a difference in Rebecca’s life and help her to prepare herself for semi-independence in adulthood. Having the support of adoptive parent(s) who have a good understanding of the kinds of behavioral and emotional needs that are part of Rebecca’s daily life and who have a good repertoire of behavioral tools and strategies to help her learn and internalize healthier coping skills could make a significant difference in how Rebecca will fare as an adult.
Her adoptive parent(s) will need to see that there are safety plans in place at home and at school, with highly attentive supervision so that Rebecca can be redirected or disciplined right on the spot if needed. It will be important that her adoptive family will really be there for her and help her feel loved. She might do better with a family with no children or significantly older.
Rebecca’s treatment program includes weekly counseling, structure and a very consistent daily routine, a high level of supervision, and medication therapy. It will, of course, be essential for her adoptive parent(s) to be willing to participate with Rebecca in her ongoing counseling program. It is likely that Rebecca will need counseling and medication therapy as part of her routine support system throughout her lifetime. It could be very helpful for child and parent(s) to get acquainted with one another while Rebecca is still in her current environment to participate together in family counseling sessions.
Parental traits that Rebecca and her social worker will both value are emotional strength, patience, the ability to see progress in even small, incremental steps, and the desire to make a difference in the life of a child.
If you are interested in providing nurturing and love for Rebecca or for any other Special Needs Children, please call our office @ 419-726-5100 for further information.