This helpful, affectionate kid is Evan! He loves to give hugs and help around the house. His foster mom loves his silly laugh that demonstrates his sincerity. Amongst his favorite things to do: playing outdoors, riding his bike, jumping on the trampoline, and maneuvering his dump trucks and cars. Evan tends to move quickly from one activity to another, so he may quickly go from looking at books to entertaining himself with Angry Birds or Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.
At school, Evan’s teachers notice how much he wants to be a helper and how much he enjoys one-on-one attention. He is supported by an IEP and spends time in both a self-contained and a regular special education classroom. Evan’s teacher states, “He is desperate to be loved and to please – he would do anything I ask him to do and tries very hard for me.” His academic skills are about 1-2 years behind his peers and socially, he interacts with others much like a first grader.
Evan came into foster care in the summer of 2013 related to concerns of neglect. Upon first meeting Evan, folks notice how sweet he is. They may also pick up on some of his delays and notice his speech. He can sit and carry on a conversation but may provide responses that aren’t related to what is actually being discussed. More than being distracted, this evidences the challenges Evan experiences in tracking what’s happening. He really likes to talk though, and he asks lots of questions.
Evan needs help tying his shoes, bathing and dressing. It’s important to note that initially Evan may appear higher functioning than he is; he needs a family who understands how to nurture and support him, and provide him opportunities for challenge and success.
Some of Evan’s specific challenges are related to understanding action and consequence combined with a high level of impulsivity. He may tell stories, lie or steal. While he is sincerely remorseful and regretful about these behaviors, he is quick to repeat them and needs lots of redirection and supervision. When Evan receives redirection, he may respond by telling adults that they’re mean or telling them to leave him alone. He may also break things. His impulsivity also leads him to get into other’s things and personal space. Evan’s family needs to be able to understand what is prompting these behaviors and have the ability to know that his actions are not personal.
While Evan is lactose intolerant, it seems that one of his favorite foods is cheese. He likes pizza, grilled cheese and spaghetti. He will try to take food that he knows he’s not supposed to have and then try to blame his caregivers for giving him the food that made him sick.
Evan’s team believes he would do best in a two-parent family because of the amount of redirection and supervision he needs. Single parents are welcome to inquire too! Any family configuration will need a strong support system. Evan loves one-on-one attention but would be okay with older kids who are able to understand why Evan struggles in certain areas. Evan is a sincere, silly kid with a good heart who needs an adoptive family. His teacher summed him up very well: “He will need lots of guidance as a young adult to assure that he doesn’t fall in with the wrong crowd. If he can stay with the right crowd then the sky is the limit.”
If you are interested in providing nurturing and love for Evan or for any other Special Needs Children, please call our office @ 419-726-5100 for further information.